Category: aging

• The Good Life

  To escape the bickering, and whining, and catering to the needs and desires of everyone’s demands, I took our dog, Annie, for a walk on a quiet fire trail near our house. Bright and beautiful out, a sweet sea breeze came over the Oakland Hills with the afternoon sun. The mile and a half dirt…

  jcafesin

  March 31, 2023

  aging, Family, family life, lonliness, parenting, parents, Uncategorized

  dadlife, dogs, german shepherd, good life, grandkids, momlife, raising kids, retirement

• About Face—A Dog Story

  I got her at the pound on my 26th birthday, a fluff-ball Shepherd mix with big brown eyes, floppy ears, and a perfect black diamond dead in the center of her tan forehead. She was just seven weeks old, not yet ready for adoption. I lied to get her out. They found her in the…

  jcafesin

  January 10, 2023

  aging, dogs, pet adoption, pets

  best friends, bff, death, dog lovers, dog story, dying, euthanasia, grieving, loss, pet owners, shepherds

• On Self-Doubt

  

  I had a meltdown about writing—the process of—this morning. Simultaneously, my son, a recent computer science graduate, did too—about job hunting. He emailed me while I’m melting down: I’m applying for jobs and contacting these people but when absolutely no one contacts me back I feel like I’m sinking. I just feel like a fucking…

  jcafesin

  September 7, 2022

  aarp, addiction, aging, atheism, atheists, Authors, careers, depression, Emerging Authors, Emotional Intelligence, Entrepreneurship, parenting, psychology, relationships, writers

• Letting Go of Our Kids

  

  Our son went on a camping trip with his 5th grade class last week. He was gone four days, spent three nights bunking with eight of his classmates and a high school chaperon. They shared a cabin (with heated floors and a private bathroom), one of many scattered around Camp Arroyo, nestled in the eastern…

  jcafesin

  March 1, 2022

  aging, dads, parenting, parents, psychology, relationships

  empty-nest, momlife, moms, motherhood, parenting teens, teens, tweens

• What is EVIL?

  What is EVIL? It is not murder. It is not lying, cheating, stealing, or breaking any of the 10 Commandments, or Hitler, or Donald Trump. It is NOT a state of being. EVIL is an ACTION, or lack thereof. True EVIL is indifference. We are ALL indifferent at times. Every time you pick up your…

  jcafesin

  June 21, 2018

  aging, atheism, atheists, christians, dads, Facebook, growth hacking, holocaust, Immigration, jews, parenting, parents, Trump, Uncategorized

  comcast sucks, evil, Giving Back, love, not my president, Trump, volunteering