Every human being on the planet is BORN a racist... We are ALL racists. Every human being on the planet is BORN a racist. ‘NO!’ you’re screaming at me. ‘BULLSHIT, you whacked-out bitch. I am not a racist!’ Racism is taught, not inherent to our nature is the common wisdom. And while it’s true racism, hate, fear … Continue reading Born Racist
What is Your Purpose in Living? Christians and Muslims (actual believers, not in name only because they celebrate Christmas or Eid al-Fitr) believe the purpose of living is to serve and reflect their God’s will to ensure their assent to heaven after death. Jews focus on the present rather than an afterlife. They believe humans … Continue reading The Purpose of Life
Do you FEEL before you THINK?Or do your THOUGHTS generate your FEELINGS? Psychology is split on this. Old world believed it was THOUGHT first, i.e. behavioral/cognitive therapy. New world has finally come around to what seems to me so blatantly obvious: The Human Psyche:FEELINGS lead to THOUGHTS, and THOUGHTS lead to ACTIONS. Human beings are FEELING creatures FIRST … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence
For as long as I can remember I wanted to be a mom. I was absolutely convinced I could parent better than my mother. My father was the breadwinner — king of our small kingdom — and more into himself than raising the two kids he produced and the one he adopted. I became a … Continue reading Letting Go of Adult Kids
Typically, on Sunday mornings my husband and I share articles from the New York Times. He’ll often read me pieces while I prepare breakfast or vice versa, and we’ll discuss the ones that pique our interest. The year-end edition of the Sunday Magazine runs detailed obituaries on a handful of famous and infamous people who … Continue reading Do You Matter?
How do you get good at anything? Practice. How do you get great? Obsession — Practice most all the time. Pick any famous author, artist, or musician, and they’ll all have obsession in common. And while we, the public, enjoy the fruits of their creative labors, those closest to these individuals were/are generally left wanting more … Continue reading The Price of Brilliance
Spent my life looking in at the world I live, but never ‘fitting in’... Ever been with a group of people, and everyone is talking amicably, (or on their cellphones), and you’re sitting there watching and listening, and you feel like an alien? Not a foreign national among a group of natives. More like you’re … Continue reading Outside Looking In
Ray Bradbury reminded me why I write... I sat on the floor in the back of a bookstore in old-town Pasadena perusing the selections. It was Saturday, late afternoon, another sunny day in L.A. I didn’t notice the store owners hustling everyone out the door and they didn’t see me in the back on the … Continue reading Why Do You Write?
Australia killed social media today for under 18. YEA AUZZIES! My almost 24 yr old daughter came downstairs Saturday morning giggling with glee. She told my husband and I she was ‘so excited!’ Something ‘great’ had happened. She was in a car accident 1.5 yrs ago that is resulting in a lawsuit, and I thought … Continue reading Parenting Social Media
For anyone experiencing grief from loss... The fetus inside me, my potential daughter, was diagnosed XXX from a tissue sample taken during an amniocentesis my 14th week of pregnancy. We’d named her Sierra, since she made it past the first trimester, after losing two of the triplets in utero the first month. I’d had three … Continue reading Reaching Acceptance
