Friends come and go, but is FAMILY really forever? The day my father called to tell me my mom had cancer, I hung up the phone, turned to my husband and said, “Well, that's the end of my family.” I said it, but I didn't believe it. I didn't want to believe it, though I … Continue reading Letting Go of Family
Years ago, I took my five year old son to a playgroup. It was our first time at this particular group, meeting at the hilltop home of the founding member, and we were over an hour late. All the regular members of the group were already there, the moms gathered on the back porch watching … Continue reading Can We All just Get Along?
Spent my life looking in at the world I live, but never ‘fitting in’... Ever been with a group of people, and everyone is talking amicably, (or on their cellphones), and you’re sitting there watching and listening, and you feel like an alien? Not a foreign national among a group of natives. More like you’re … Continue reading Outside Looking In
My husband caught his married CEO kissing an employee, setting the Butterfly Effect in motion... “I’m screwed,” my husband said, calling me from his job at a well-known Silicon Valley startup. He’d entered the stairwell and saw the married CEO of his company sucking face with an employee. He had a right to be upset. The CEO is putting … Continue reading The Butterfly Effect
SEX is JUST SEX. It is a biological drive, a primal/base urge both genders possess (to varying degree between individuals). SEX IS NOT LOVE, regardless of the portrayal in movies that the act of sex is profoundly loving, a spiritual meeting of minds, bodies, and souls. Having sex can be an action of love, but … Continue reading SEX is JUST SEX
With everything given something is owed. With everything given something, not the same thing, is owed. With everything given—a kindness, one’s time, efforts on your behalf—you owe that person. I write it three times because most people DON’T GET IT, or worse, refuse to believe it. It’s easier to receive than reciprocate. Denying or ignoring … Continue reading With Everything Given, Something is Owed
My husband was upset with our 7-yr-old Shepherd-mix pound-hound this morning. “Ellie won’t come with me to Frisbee anymore.” He generally takes her to the park every weekday afternoon to play. I take Ellie Maze on the weekends. I stand at the top of the hill and hurl the disk as far as I can … Continue reading The Fundamentals of Effective Communication
Men are the freight train comin’ at ya.Women are the poison in your food… I’m a guy’s girl, meaning I’ve spent most of my life hanging out with men instead of women. The freight train comin’ at ya, I prefer men’s straightforward nature, their directness, their unwavering, solution-oriented trajectory. Men are simpler than women. Not less intelligent, just … Continue reading What Makes a Great Man
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4DIaZWItxWERRbZDNjZBz6?si=8fc15218e7cc4ebc My sister is dead, I told the bank manager. She isn’t dead. She lives in Washington with her husband, having recently moved from L.A., where we were both born and raised. The bank manager expressed his condolences. He accepted the paperwork from our lawyer to remove my sister's name from our Trust as the … Continue reading LOVE Defined
