Our Oldest Form of Communication Is Rewriting Reality I’ve been a storyteller for as long as I can remember. I used to come to breakfast and recount elaborate adventures I’d had during the night with my stuffed dog, Checkers. The purpose of these tales was to garner my mother’s attention, a precious commodity given mainly … Continue reading Storytelling is Truth, Tweaked
Years ago, I took my five year old son to a playgroup. It was our first time at this particular group, meeting at the hilltop home of the founding member, and we were over an hour late. All the regular members of the group were already there, the moms gathered on the back porch watching … Continue reading Can We All just Get Along?
Every human being on the planet is BORN a racist... We are ALL racists. Every human being on the planet is BORN a racist. ‘NO!’ you’re screaming at me. ‘BULLSHIT, you whacked-out bitch. I am not a racist!’ Racism is taught, not inherent to our nature is the common wisdom. And while it’s true racism, hate, fear … Continue reading Born Racist
Ever felt like you're nothing? Valueless. Transparent, like no one can see you. And you’re screaming truth, cited facts, pouring your heart out, jumping through hoops to be noticed, heard, but you’re still ignored, marginalized. Worthless. Ever feel invisible to everyone, even your reflection? Like when your eyes connect in the mirror and the voice … Continue reading What is Your Value
I’m born and raised L.A. and have been driving since I was 14. And yes, illegally, but growing up in the 70s, if you wanted to go anywhere in the Los Angeles area, you had to drive there. There was no Metro Rail back then, and the buses weren’t safe for young girls, or anyone … Continue reading Most Everything I Know About People I Learned from Driving
The MILGRAM EXPERIMENT revealed some profound truths about all of us... Shortly after WW2, Stanley Milgram, a Yale professor did what has come to be known as an ‘obedience’ experiment. (Trailer of docudrama:) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sngGqBOLWaI According to Milgram, while self-interest is part of our nature, most of us are fundamentally FOLLOWERS. His famous study revealed it … Continue reading What Makes a Leader?
Do you FEEL before you THINK?Or do your THOUGHTS generate your FEELINGS? Psychology is split on this. Old world believed it was THOUGHT first, i.e. behavioral/cognitive therapy. New world has finally come around to what seems to me so blatantly obvious: The Human Psyche:FEELINGS lead to THOUGHTS, and THOUGHTS lead to ACTIONS. Human beings are FEELING creatures FIRST … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence
Talked to an old friend yesterday. We hadn’t spoken for almost a decade. No particular reason. Life took over and we lost touch. The last time we spoke, 10 yrs back, he told me his wife had quit her job as a restaurant manager and was very happy to be home, fixing up their house, … Continue reading On Being Human
Women are inherently maternal—raised to put others before self. This is the cost... I think I may be broken. Not the quirky, cute type, but really cracked, unable to compartmentalize my desires from those of the people I love. I don’t stand up for what I want because I often lose sight of what that … Continue reading Are You Broken Like Me?
Spent my life looking in at the world I live, but never ‘fitting in’... Ever been with a group of people, and everyone is talking amicably, (or on their cellphones), and you’re sitting there watching and listening, and you feel like an alien? Not a foreign national among a group of natives. More like you’re … Continue reading Outside Looking In
