Friends come and go, but is FAMILY really forever? The day my father called to tell me my mom had cancer, I hung up the phone, turned to my husband and said, “Well, that's the end of my family.” I said it, but I didn't believe it. I didn't want to believe it, though I … Continue reading Letting Go of Family
Every human being on the planet is BORN a racist... We are ALL racists. Every human being on the planet is BORN a racist. ‘NO!’ you’re screaming at me. ‘BULLSHIT, you whacked-out bitch. I am not a racist!’ Racism is taught, not inherent to our nature is the common wisdom. And while it’s true racism, hate, fear … Continue reading Born Racist
What is Your Purpose in Living? Christians and Muslims (actual believers, not in name only because they celebrate Christmas or Eid al-Fitr) believe the purpose of living is to serve and reflect their God’s will to ensure their assent to heaven after death. Jews focus on the present rather than an afterlife. They believe humans … Continue reading The Purpose of Life
The MILGRAM EXPERIMENT revealed some profound truths about all of us... Shortly after WW2, Stanley Milgram, a Yale professor did what has come to be known as an ‘obedience’ experiment. (Trailer of docudrama:) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sngGqBOLWaI According to Milgram, while self-interest is part of our nature, most of us are fundamentally FOLLOWERS. His famous study revealed it … Continue reading What Makes a Leader?
Do you FEEL before you THINK?Or do your THOUGHTS generate your FEELINGS? Psychology is split on this. Old world believed it was THOUGHT first, i.e. behavioral/cognitive therapy. New world has finally come around to what seems to me so blatantly obvious: The Human Psyche:FEELINGS lead to THOUGHTS, and THOUGHTS lead to ACTIONS. Human beings are FEELING creatures FIRST … Continue reading Emotional Intelligence
“I saw someone die today, Mom,” my daughter told me on the phone, her voice four octaves higher than normal, like she’d been sucking on helium. “Where are you?” I heard street noise in the background. “I’m on the 101. I’m driving home from the hospital.” Again, her voice was...off—too high, too cheery. “I saw … Continue reading On Raising a Doctor
Women are inherently maternal—raised to put others before self. This is the cost... I think I may be broken. Not the quirky, cute type, but really cracked, unable to compartmentalize my desires from those of the people I love. I don’t stand up for what I want because I often lose sight of what that … Continue reading Are You Broken Like Me?
Spent my life looking in at the world I live, but never ‘fitting in’... Ever been with a group of people, and everyone is talking amicably, (or on their cellphones), and you’re sitting there watching and listening, and you feel like an alien? Not a foreign national among a group of natives. More like you’re … Continue reading Outside Looking In
SEX is JUST SEX. It is a biological drive, a primal/base urge both genders possess (to varying degree between individuals). SEX IS NOT LOVE, regardless of the portrayal in movies that the act of sex is profoundly loving, a spiritual meeting of minds, bodies, and souls. Having sex can be an action of love, but … Continue reading SEX is JUST SEX
Lonely? You bet! So is most everyone else, even people with partners. And no need to be jealous of the relationship they have, since they likely don’t have the fulfilling romance you imagine they do. Sad? Of course! Lonely is depressing! Anxious these days? Or any days navigating our modern world? Of course you are. … Continue reading Therapy for Change or Ego
